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Attached - Rachel Heller & Amir Levine


By Rachel Heller & Amir Levine

  • Release Date: 2010-12-30
  • Genre: Family & Relationships
Score: 4.5
From 1,331 Ratings


We rely on science to tell us everything from what to eat to when and how long to exercise, but what about relationships? Is there a scientific explanation for why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others struggle? According to psychiatrist and neuroscientist Dr. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller, the answer is a resounding "yes."

In Attached, Levine and Heller reveal how an understanding of adult attachment-the most advanced relationship science in existence today-can help us find and sustain love. Pioneered by psychologist John Bowlby in the 1950s, the field of attachment posits that each of us behaves in relationships in one of three distinct ways:

Anxious people are often preoccupied with their relationships and tend to worry about their partner's ability to love them back Avoidant people equate intimacy with a loss of independence and constantly try to minimize closeness. Secure people feel comfortable with intimacy and are usually warm and loving.
In this book Levine and Heller guide readers in determining what attachment style they and their mate (or potential mate) follow, offering a road map for building stronger, more fulfilling connections with the people they love.


  • If you want to understand yourself and others… this is THE book!

    By Elle Bana
    Humans have different ways to connect with others, based on their childhood, relationship dynamics between their parents, and other experiences. This is the book to read if you want to understand whether you and others avoid connection, feel anxious when developing relationships with others, or have a secure mechanism do develop healthy relationships. I really like how the authors provide exercises to identify areas of improvement.
  • Very practical and informative

    By MikeFlowtown
    This was an excellent read. Not many books out there that are so forthcoming with data. Attached can be the difference maker in all relationships in your life.
  • Attachment fundamentals

    By sasffvvd
    This is a really good book that is easy to read and well structured. I learned about myself and others attachment styles that have helped me understand the various relationships I had in the past as well with current situations.
  • Good reads

    By Hummingbird494
    Very helpful book.
  • Amazing

    By Michaelangelo
    I always knew what was bothering me, I could see habits in my relationship but never understood why.. I knew it wasn’t the petty surface items that was so easy to pick a fight over. This book puts words to thoughts and doesn’t sugar coat anything. Saved me hundreds in therapy!
  • Attached

    By Mom on nordic trac
    Excellent book. You learn so much about yourself and your past behaviors. It clears the air on life choices and events. It’s a must read.
  • Blown away!

    By Remi Owadokun
    I heard about the book but thought it was exaggerated, it wasn’t! It’s very very good and everyone wanting to get the best out of relationships needs to read this book.
  • Amazing read

    By Toezzy
    Great for learning and understanding your attachment style as well as the people around you
  • Mixed bag, bit judgmental

    By Asdfgholqyeiofbejwldb
    I enjoyed some of the insights this book offers but it’s clear the authors have an easier time relating to people with an anxious attachment style, than they are with avoidantly attached people. The writing’s on the wall in the very first example. The latter group tend to get cast as villains while it’s abundantly reinforced that the needs of the former group are valid. It also promotes people to “just” find a partner who’s secure. Several of the examples of “effective communication”, especially the one the book closes with are borderline manipulative. I learned stuff from this book, but unfortunately can’t recommend it.
  • A must read

    By VR~
    Very insightful!